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Praise for The Mother Load

Comments re: Tommy Druen: The Mother Load

By Donna Rieder

I just wanted to praise Tommy Druen for his excellent article, "The Mother Load." Although October is officially Depression Awareness Month, it's a topic that everyone should be aware of. Depression is REAL.

Both my mother and maternal grandmother struggled with depression, and my siblings and I suffered as a result. My mother's "cure" was Valium and Scotch, and she'd "medicate" herself as soon as us kids left for school. By the time we got home, she'd be passed out next to an ashtray overflowing with cigarette butts, empty Scotch bottle nearby. God help us if we woke her up. We learned to tiptoe and whisper, and stay in our rooms, because if we woke her up she'd go into a fit of uncontrolled rage, and all three of us would get a beating, regardless of who woke her.

Depression takes a toll, not just on the person who is depressed, but also on everyone else living in the house. My brother drowned when I was 15, and it was a questionable situation. My sister left home at 17, and when I turned 17, I left home as well. Dad was in the military and was gone for weeks on end, so us kids did what we had to do: get out, any way we could.

I struggled with depression during my teen years as well, and although I think it was due mostly to the situation at home, I was determined to break the cycle.


I was terrified of becoming like my mother, so I decided that I was never going to have kids of my own. That decision has been bittersweet, as I'm now nearing 70 and have no living family or relatives. Thankfully, I have a wonderful church family and some of the best friends I've ever known.

If you or someone you know is living with depression, there is hope. It's nothing to be ashamed of, as it's often caused by genetics, and/or phycological, biological, or environmental issues. There are various treatment options, and anyone suffering from depression should have an honest conversation with their doctor to explore their treatment options.

If you experience thoughts of suicide or self-harm, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, 24/7. Somone will always answer, and they will listen to you and help provide resources to get you the help you need.


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