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Carol Perkins: Cards and Roses

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By Carol Perkins

Valentine's Day is a chance to find love. That's how it was once depicted. Send a card and red roses and hope the girl will be overcome with gratitude and accept a first date. Oh, no, I think that's only in Hallmark movies, and the girls are always working in a florist. Roses would be the last thing to woo her.

Finding love, according to reality shows, is not easy. Are there more people looking now than ever? Are they picky, high maintenance, needy, or have difficult personalities? Usually, a couple gets married and then finds out those things!

Many of my high school friends married young. Most are still together after sixty years or more.

According to my calculations, high school sweethearts have good track records. Maybe it's because young couples learn about each other as they go rather than trying to know everything before marriage.

If Guy had known the real Carol, he might not have waited for me after school, drove me home, and made a date for Saturday night. I'm not sure he thought much deeper than the mutual flirtation we carried on because we teens didn't have a checklist of qualifications for a future spouse. We didn't date with one foot on the altar. We dated to be dating. If we were lucky, which many of us were, we found our love before leaving high school. Even going away for college didn't split us.

When I read about local couples celebrating over sixty-five years or more of marriage, I smile because I remember them dating in high school.

A few of my classmates married before graduation (they graduated). A few eloped, which was very romantic at the time. Some married soon after graduation. Expectations were different back then.

I bet none of these couples would want their teenage girl or boy to marry young because marriage is not all Valentine's cards and red roses. You can ask Guy! He thought he was marrying a quiet girl who nibbled on a hamburger at the Freeze after a ballgame. Ah, that was fifty-six years ago. Young love, however, is the best.

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