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Carol Perkins: Opposites Attract

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By Carol Perkins

As I once said, when you marry, you marry a stranger. Guy and I didn't know much about each other, but our values and morals were aligned. However, we were almost total opposites.

I am happy in a room of fun people while he looks at his watch. I love playing games, but he'd rather be watching "Gunsmoke." I am a reader, and he will read a book once a year. Traveling backroads is exciting, but he prefers the quickest route. Eating is a top priority, and I don't think it. He knows where his things are, and I usually don't have a clue. He will wear a shirt for years, as obvious in photos, while I like new things. Changing his mind is difficult, whereas I can change with the wind. I jump into business ventures/projects while he weighs his options. I take risks; he plays it safe. He likes slapstick comedy, but I think it's dumb. I will not ride roller coasters with him.

I multitask while he focuses on one thing and finishes it. If he's building flower boxes, he will build all of them before he stops. I go from one thing to the next and then go back. I am a worrier, but he is not. He claims to be a realist and says I'm a dreamer.

His shoes are in the closet while mine are beside my chair. I love Broadway hits, but he prefers whinny songs with sad stories. He watches reruns, but I can't stand them. Although he has potential, he is seldom silly; I like to be silly sometimes. He doesn't offer advice, while I can't hold back. I am spontaneous while he is a planner.

I know what annoys him. "Stay out of my office," he insists. He knows what annoys me. "Why do you want to do that?" he'll ask when I suggest changes. He declares that when I'm gone, he'll back a truck up and get rid of the stuff he calls junk. I don't believe him, but that's the way we operate.

We like to be together and apart. We can ride along and not say a word or discuss politics and religion for miles. The most common interest we have other than our children and grandchildren is traveling. Opposites attract and often stay together for a lifetime. Fifty-five years and counting.

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