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Carol Perkins: Preparing for Thanksgiving

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By Carol Perkins

Preparing for Thanksgiving? Thinking about eating out instead? Wishing someone would bring a full meal and take away the leftovers? Want to use China and silver, but don't want to wash all those dirty dishes? Is there a commercial to follow? No, just my mind listing alternatives.

Looking at possibilities. Working through both dread and anticipation. For years, we had three Thanksgivings. Parents, in-laws, and at home. Time takes care of those days. For the last twenty years or so, I have cooked Thanksgiving meals. Occasionally, we dined out. Then I went back to cooking. Then we went to Carla's. A few times, we went to Jon's in Texas.

This year? I am cooking.

"You brought it on yourself," Guy would say.

My brother Henry and his California children and their spouse/significant other will be here Thanksgiving week but are leaving the day before Thanksgiving. I decided, in a moment when I felt especially loving and kind, that I wanted to prepare a meal.

I can't remember the last time we were together on Thanksgiving or Christmas. The closer the day comes, the more I'm deciding that eating out might have been a better alternative. Once I pop the turkey in the oven, I'll be glad to have my house full of relatives.

My nephew in Bowling Green likes to have family together on the Saturday after Thanksgiving. "I want you and Uncle Guy and Mema to be sure to come." With his mother's side of the family from Burkesville as well as Indiana and his business partner and his family, his house will be full. This will be the first Thanksgiving with Sagan, my great-nephew, so it will be special.

Traditions eventually end. I have seen so many changes in what we once did and what we do now. Our children are scattered, so Thanksgiving meals together are impossible.

The days of thinking a holiday must be on an exact day are over, and unless you have family around you, you adjust to their schedules. This Thanksgiving will be different, but it will be good. I've already bought the turkey. I'll leave the cleaning up to the younger ones. Throwing away paper plates isn't much of a job!

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