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Mother's Day has always been a problem for me

The writer of this article is a published author from Louisville who was honored in the following comment, "I don't recommend spending a lot of time with a physical impairment as a way to gain new insights, but if life brings a disability our way we might as well learn from it. For the majority of folks who have never dealt with a disability, there are other ways to learn. One avenue is to read Cass Irvin's excellent book, Home Bound, Growing Up with a Disability in America. I commend this book to you; an encounter with it may cause the scales to fall from your eyes as you see the world in a new way." -- Louisville pastor Rev. Joey N. Welsh

Mother's Day has always been a problem for me.

By Cass Irvin, Louisville author

My birthday comes about week before Mother's Day. If someone gave me money for my birthday I would have to use it for a present for my mom. I know that sounds childish--but I was a child when I had this realization.

By my 30s I realized I had more than one mom so the problem continued. Actually, I have five.



You may know my Mom and Chris, my second mom, from my memoir. I talked a little about Maw-Maw, mother's mother, my third mom.

Maw-Maw gave me my first job. When I was young and 'homebound' (as they said in those days) Maw-Maw, who lived in the country, would volunteer at Kosair Crippled Children's Hospital and she would stop here every Thursday on her way to town.

She would visit with my mom and me in my bedroom. (I was also considered 'bedbound' back then.) They would talk about family and grown up things; I was bored. One day Maw-Maw offered me chewing gum and sat her purse bedside me on my bed.

When I looked inside there were crumpled tissue, bits of paper, loose change so I offered to clean out her purse. She let me keep the change. From then on every Thursday I cleaned out Maw-Maw's purse--my first paid job! Evidently, I did a good job because each week there would a little more change until one day I found a whole package of nickels.

Martha, my fourth mom, met me when I was nine years old at Girl Scout Camp; and then again when I was in my 30s. Martha was present at the first speech I ever gave, she told me later, to see how I turned out. She helped shape my view of feminism and activism.

And, of course there's Gloria . . . she is called GloMom for a reason. She had six children of her own but if you know Gloria, know her family, or know anyone who knows one of her kids--or if you've been in her presence, even for a minute, chances are she will become your mom, too. It's not necessarily what she does--it's more what she is.

So, it looks like I have five moms. What about you?


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